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I did these 12 things to find happiness and this is what happened



I did these 12 things to find happiness and this is what happened 


Being happy isn't as hard as it appears to be at times.  In 2017, I was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). In a common human terms, mild depression. I started to stay away from the crowd, came to workplace on time and left on time, limited my interaction with friends, and indulged in stress overeating. I can honestly tell you that it worsened my situation. Next was doctor's advice, then medication. If you were experiencing similar to what I experienced, try to go through what I did.




Here are twelve things that I believe helped me increase my sense of happiness and made my life more fulfilling:

1. Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. I know people are different, so I started accepting people for who or what they are; I stayed away from clashes, constant arguments, and I let go of all kinds of resentments (it's not easy at first, but try to take the hard way). If arguments seem inevitable, I still try and make an effort to understand the situation.

2. Being thankful is a great attitude.  We have so much to be thankful for. Taking time to thank those who provide even the smallest thing helped me realize how abundant my life is.

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3. News is stressful. Get less of it. (Stay away from political shows and arguments about politics. You'll realize it's more fulfilling).

4. Being part of a spiritual group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations encourages inner peace.

5. I learned to manage my time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste.


6. I laugh and laugh vigorously everyday.  Heard a good joke? I tell my friends and family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'.

7. I learned to communicate my feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around me.

8. I try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations. I realized this is bad for my health. Instead, I find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

9. Working hard brings great personal contentment. It gives a sense of being capable in finishing our tasks. I work on things that I feel are valuable of my time.

Related: Engage in mind relaxation with these ideas.


10. Learning is a joyful exercise. I try and learn something new each day.  Learning also makes us increase our horizons.

11. I run, jog, walk and do other things that my body is made for. I feel alive.

12. I avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

Try following these things by heart. Then come back to share your experience.




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